“Christmas is a time when everybody wants his past forgotten and his present remembered.” – Phyllis Diller
What do you want for Christmas?
What is the greatest gift you could give this year, to everyone in your Contact List?
Want to make this Christmas Day celebration one of the greatest in your lifetime?
Do the following:
- Acknowledge that what they did or didn’t do was wrong – they were wrong.
- Let go of the wrong and all the grudges and hurts of the past you carry
- Forgive the one(s) who hurt you, even if they think they didn’t do anything wrong
- Let go of all your expectations of what people should do or be, accept what is
- Let go of all expectations of what this Christmas Day celebration should be
- Find value in whatever the day or season holds.
How? Choose, repeatedly if necessary. If you cannot forgive for their sakes, forgive for your sake. When we forgive another we set ourselves free from anger, bitterness, resentment, even revenge. When we forgive we let go of the heavy pointless burden of wishing and hoping for a different past. We let go of fear.
Actions you can take to help you forgive and let go of someone’s past
- Frequently repeat, “I forgive __________ for __________”
- I found it even more effective to pray, “Lord, forgive __________ for ________”
- Take a few minutes and create a list of all the good things that came from or can come from the injury you experienced
- Give thanks for the injury and for the one who injured you, even if it still hurts.
Imagine a day free of expectations, free of fear, free to give the gift of forgiveness. Imagine being free to forgive the past and to be fully present in the moment, to look for and enjoy what is good in the people you surround yourself with Christmas Day and every day going forward.
Now if enough of us could do that, would that not be “Peace on Earth, Good will for all.”
FYI: Phyllis Diller, July 17, 1917 – August 20, 2012, was an American entertainer, author, artist and musician. Best known for her eccentric stage persona and self-deprecating humor, she was one of the first to become a successful solo female comedian in the US.