I read the blog from Stacy Anderson this week and learned she’s had knee surgery. It was good to hear what she was going through and what she was learning from it. This came at a most prodigious time for me because I’ve been in bed for the last 2 ½ weeks with my leg propped up above my heart waiting for the swelling to go down – an attack of phlebitis. It was painful and I’m still not able to be up an about for a prolonged period (more than an hour) without experiencing discomfort. And if I’m not wearing compression socks when I’m up my leg starts to turn Purplish – blue. NOT FUN.
But I have struggled with do I mention anything via blogging or Facebook or not? Who do I tell? Anyone? I grew up in an era where we were to be like John Wayne – tough it out in silence. I mean after all I didn’t need anyone to come over and prepare meals or do laundry (hubby’s home). It was painful but it wasn’t life threatening so why talk about it – just get through it.
Having read about Stacy and her situation I feel a little more connected to her – and maybe that’s the value of letting people know you are out of commission. I was thinking don’t talk about my leg because people have their own stuff and I’ll get through this. What I like so much about Stacey’s blog is that she wasn’t whining “Woe is me!” She’s telling what is and offering, “Hey, here’s what I’ve been learning!”
We all live such busy lives! We don’t always reach out to people we care about when we haven’t heard from them, but it doesn’t mean we don’t care. They just aren’t always “top of mind awareness”.
Questions I “agonized” over: “Will people think I’m a wimp if I talk about what’s going on? Will they think I’m less professional, less competent if I talk about it? Will they think I’m looking for sympathy?” It just didn’t occur to me that they might just be glad to know what’s going on.
I just realized Chucky was at it again and I followed her advice. Thanks Stacey for waking Charlie up – and hope you heal really fast so you can enjoy the summer and all your summer sports!
So, dear reader, what do you think? What do you do? Do you tell or keep the silence? What works for you? I’d love to know what you think!